In our previous article, Top 3 Tips for Creating a Strong Adoption Profile, we discussed being genuine, using fantastic photographs and captions, and telling stories instead of listing facts. In this article we will explore a few more subtle recommendations.
Before we jump to the suggestions, take 2 minutes and think about what you like and dislike about the following adoption profile introductory paragraph. We provide our own analysis at the end of this article.
This is a tremendous opportunity that you will be giving to one very lucky family. We admire your courage in making what we know is a difficult decision. Our hearts ache to think that we are not yet parents. If we are privileged to adopt your baby we will love and treasure this child as our own.
Now that you have your own opinions about what works and what doesn’t work, let’s explore ways to strengthen an adoption profile.
Our online course, The WHAT and HOW of Adoption Profiles, is a MUST for anyone who is serious about creating a profile that stands out. The suggestions below are a small sample of what you’ll learn in this course.
One of the highlights from this course are the audio recordings of women who made an adoption plan. They volunteered to offer you specific advice that you won’t hear anywhere else.
Do Not Use the “Dear Birthmother” Salutation
There are two main reasons for this. First, a woman is not a birth mother until she makes an adoption plan and an expectant woman who is reading your profile has not yet made that choice. Some may resent the assumption and the label, so why use it?
The second reason for using another salutation is that “Dear Birthmother” excludes the expectant father and other people who can influence the adoption decision, such as the expectant woman’s mother. Simply use “Hello” or “Welcome” or even nothing at all.
Express Common Feelings in a Unique Way
“Respect,” “Courage,” and “Admire” are overused in adoption profiles and when expectant parents are reading through several at a time, the words start to seem disingenuous. It is more powerful to SHOW your respect and admiration in your profile and avoid simply stating it.
Remember the Expectant Parents’ Perspective
The purpose of adoption for expectant parents is to find just the right family for their baby. This sounds like common sense, but many adopting parents believe that adoption is entirely about finding a child for themselves. Read Separate Your History From Their Present to better understand this point. The more you can deeply understand the expectant parents’ perspective, the stronger your profile and the better you will communicate with potential birth parents.
So putting these suggestions to use, below is the same introductory paragraph that we introduced above with our red-lined recommended changes. Notice how some of the suggestions above can manifest themselves in profiles.
Your adoption profile is incredibly important.
Do everything you can to put your best foot forward.