Common Questions

Below are answers to the questions we get most often. If you have other questions, please contact us using the form below.

1. Can I really influence how quickly I adopt? I thought I had to wait to be picked by an expectant parent?

Absolutely can you influence the outcome! Thousands of times each year adoptive parents create an outstanding adoption profile (sometimes referred to as a family profile or Dear Birthmother Letter) and find their child’s birth family simply as a result of their own networking and advertising efforts. One of our favorite inspirational stories is about Cheri, a woman whose adoptive parents had a common friend with her birth mother’s doctor. It truly is a small world.

Think about it this way. Who is more likely to find a new job faster: a person who develops an outstanding resume, researches companies, and networks like crazy with everyone they can or a person with a “me-too” resume who just responds to jobs listed in the classified ads?

No one knows ahead of time how they will find a job, but as a general rule there is no doubt that those who have great resumes and leverage their network find better jobs more quickly than those who don’t. The same holds true in adoption.

2. How can an adoption consultant like My Adoption Advisor help me?

Consultants in general provide value in one of two ways: either they have a set of experiences or expertise that most others do not have and they can leverage that for your benefit, or they offer a temporary extra set of hands to get some work done that would otherwise not get done or would get done later than desired. Families work with us for one or both of these reasons.

We certainly bring firsthand experience coupled with research-based expertise to help families understand expectant parents, develop a strong adoption profile, and do adoption networking and advertising, for example. We often provide an extra set of hands, as well, to get some of the work done that you just don’t have the time to do yourself.

3. How does your training work?

We offer on-demand training. This means that you can access the training materials whenever you want and wherever you have Internet access. This also means that you can experience the training on your own schedule and at your own pace. You can typically purchase our training and begin the course within the day.

You can also experience any course multiple times and skip around. In fact, you can watch as many times as you want within a 6-month period of time.

Our courses are incredibly interactive, too, because we give you the opportunity to complete exercises at certain points during the courses. This approach reinforces key points and helps you learn. It also gives you a chance to hear our answers to those exercises which again, strengthens your learning.

4. Why pay for adoption training when I can learn so much on the Internet for free?

It’s true that you can learn a lot from scouring the Internet (assuming you are visiting reputable sites). What you get for free, however, is typically just information. Having information is great, but people don’t succeed by simply having information. They succeed by doing the right things at the right time. Our training gives you the skills you need to succeed.

You may have attended free “training” webinars in the past and they do a good job of highlighting the issues for you, but they don’t really teach you anything. That’s because the companies behind them are trying to sell you something that can address the issues. That’s not our approach at all. We charge a fair price for skill-based training because we focus on giving you valuable skills you cannot get elsewhere.

For example, although we share more than 30 outreach ideas in our Adoption Networking & Advertising course, the objective of the course is for you to create your own outreach plan. You will take the information we share and the exercises in the training guide to understand your comfort level with the different ideas, as well as the cost and skills required for each idea. Then you will leverage the templates and examples in the training guide to create your personal plan.

5. Do costs associated with your services qualify for the Adoption Tax Credit?

We believe so, but this opinion is not a substitute for professional financial advice and should not be relied upon without consulting your tax advisor.

As stated on the IRS website: You may be able to take a tax credit for qualifying expenses paid to adopt an eligible child. The adoption credit is an amount subtracted from your tax liability. Qualifying adoption expenses are reasonable and necessary adoption fees, court costs, attorney fees, traveling expenses (including amounts spent for meals and lodging) while away from home, and other expenses directly related to, and whose principal purpose is for, the legal adoption of an eligible child.

6. Is it safe to make an online purchase with My Adoption Advisor?

Yes. All information is encrypted, secure, and hacker safe because every transaction is processed through Cart66 and Stripe, two leaders in shopping cart and payment gateway technologies, to ensure a safe shopping experience. Another way to verify that your transaction is taking place at a secure site is to verify that the address begins with “https.” That “s” means any information being transmitted is encrypted and secure.


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